f you have one or two kids and are thinking about having more, you’re probably already weighing the pros and cons. From my experience, I can tell you that there’s a special kind of chaos that comes in a household of multiple kids running around.From getting multiple uses out of strollers, to freaking out about college tuition, to children who learn to help each other, here’s what you can expect from raising kids of multiple ages at the same time.

1. Pro: More bang for your buck

I mean this in a purely economic way. If you’re going to purchase that expensive jogging stroller and that super fancy wet wipe warmer, you might as well get some long-term use of it, right?

You can also split up big costs, such as college tuition, if your kids have wide ranges between their ages. You’ll still be hit with the astronomic cost, but it won’t be all at the same time.

2. Con: The extra costs add up

On the flip side, if you wait too long between children, you may actually end up spending more money on high-cost items. Car seats, for examples, expire after a certain amount of time, so they’re not safe to use past the expiration date.

Also, have you ever tried feeding both a picky toddler and a ravenous kid after soccer practice? We’re talking the stuff of horror movies, seriously. And let’s not even discuss college and diapers at the same time, because that’s just depressing.

3. Pro: You’ll always come out ahead

By this one I mean, when you have multiple children, you quickly learn to lower your standards and expectations about, well, everything. With four young kids, I have precisely zero expectation of anything ever going smoothly, easily, or seamlessly in my life. So, I’m never disappointed when the baby has a blowout the second we’re heading out of the door, or the toddler throws a tantrum at the store, or my kids start wrestling the only time I have an important phone call and ask them to be quiet for five measly minutes.

I have come to expect these things, so therefore, I’m not affected by them. On the flip side, when a trip actually goes off without a hitch, or the kids go to sleep on the first attempt, or someone listens to me when I ask them to do something the first time? Well, sign me up for the next lottery, because I’m feeling pretty darn lucky!

4. Con: You’ll have ridiculously low standards

See above. Your definition of a clean house, successful outing, or night of fun might be very, very different than anyone else’s. But hey, it works for you, right?

5. Pro: You become an expert at prioritizing

With multiple ages, the problems thrown your way at the same time will be diverse. You’ll learn quickly to think like a triage nurse in the emergency room. Split-open, bleeding chin or stubbed toe? Broken heart or anxiety attack? Potential allergy reaction or scraped-open knee? Allowance request or potty-training toddler emergency? You will become the world’s faster triaging parent and learn to deal with the high-needs items first. This does, of course, always include coffee for the grown-ups. Priorities, everyone!